How to keep your self-confidence high by renewing yourself with these 6 points
Taking time out periodically to renew yourself helps you maintain the self-confidence you need for this season of intense effort.
You will come away from these experiences with a deep down in your roots feeling of having worth and being valuable, apart from your current progress and status.
What is self-confidence
Self-confidence isn’t something you were born with. It’s something you must develop. Many of us we cultivated like weeds as children.
We played subordinate roles to the adults around us, who frequently reminded us of our faults and shortcomings more than our successes we have achieved and abilities.
If you had that type of childhood, you would face a unique challenge in building up your self-confidence as an adult.
Here are some essential points worth remembering to keep your confidence high and learn about yourself.
1. The most important opinion about you is the one that you hold.
Ultimately, no one else is responsible for your life but you. No one else is accountable for your actions but you. Therefore, nobody’s opinion about you is as important as yours.
“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.” ― Louise L. Hay
2. The most important conversations are the ones you have with yourself.
Whether you are aware of it or not, you have a running internal conversation with yourself from the moment you wake up in the morning to the time you go to bed at night. Your thoughts and ideas are “you talking to you.”
Start getting in the habit of having conversations with yourself that are supportive and reinforcing. We know about the value of talking to people who praise us, reward us, recognize us, are happy to see us and let us know how they genuinely enjoy talking with us.
So, talk to yourself with these same qualities internally as well as audibly.
3. Develop a healthy system of internal values.
Weight what you hold to be true, good and lasting. Write down some of your values for a periodic review.
Read material that reinforces what you own to be significant in life. Discover for yourself what your beliefs are and why you believe in them.
At times, challenge yourself by having discussions or even debates with yourself. Conclude things about your life. Think about more profound issues.
Your values will significantly affect how you relate to others. The stronger your benefits are, the more significant the impact.
If you lack in internal values, you will tend to draw from and even use other people almost as a leech fastening itself to their value systems.
Instead, seek to become a server, one who can help others and give strength to others.
4. Don’t stop in your failures.
Don’t wallow in your mistakes and keep moving. Failure is not a drama. It is time to admit that not only is a failure, not a tragedy but that it can often become an actual event.
Its first asset, which is far from negligible, consists of putting us back in an attitude of humility in the face of life. It forces us to accept life as it is and not as we want or dream it.
“What sets ordinary people apart from those who are successful is the perception of failure and the way they react to it.” — John C. Maxwell
You may encounter several failures, but you must not be defeated. Remember that your difficulties and setbacks do not define you.
They just strengthen your ability to overcome them and move on.
5. Stop demanding perfection of yourself.
An A score is usually awarded to the person who scores 90 percent or better, and sometimes the score doesn’t even need to be that high.
A passing grade can be as low as 60 percent. Elections are frequently won with 51 percent, as is majority stock holding!
Give your best effort and continue to move forward. Perfection is not only unrealistic to expect and virtually impossible to achieve, but it dramatically discourages your ability to move forward.
The person who is continually looking over his or her shoulder at what might have been done better can’t possibly be focussed on his/her future.
Stay focus on what’s ahead when driving, and don’t drive by concentrating on the rearview mirror.
6. Give your best to each task.
Countless individuals say when confronted with a chore, “I m too good to be doing this.” They have contempt for their current means of subsistence, their colleagues, their current situation in life.
Don’t despise your environment, your business associates, or the tasks ahead of you. Instead, encourage them and throw your-self into giving them your best.
People who look down on their current situation will rarely do what it takes to overcome the present and achieve a better tomorrow. They are likely to be forever stuck in the present they despise.
They are dissatisfied, restless, and unhappy. Frequently, they lose the present they have and sink even more profound. They haven’t failed at their jobs, but they have been unable at themselves.
No job is too unworthy to be done well. There are no small parts, only small actors.
7. View the big picture of life.
Set back from the landscape of your life today and take a long walk, ride a bike, or jog into the countryside.
Observe the wonder and abundance of nature, and remember that everything in your world is interconnected.
You are a part of a much bigger whole. Listen to the subtle rhythms of your environment. Acknowledge that you process cycles and rhythms of change throughout your life.
Relax and open up to the vast creative and interrelated world around you.
In developing confidence, you must ultimately see yourself as a unique creation. You must recognize, with pleasure, that nobody else is just like you.
No one else has precisely your temperament, history and associations.
Nobody else has your footprints, your fingerprints, your voiceprint, your genetic DNA code. No one else has your set of capabilities, talents, and skills correctly.
Originally published at https://www.thebrilliance.org on April 15, 2020.
